Showing posts with label families. Show all posts
Showing posts with label families. Show all posts

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Family Violence Affects Men Too


Family Violence Affects Men Too

Original Air Date: Monday, February 04, 2013
Family violence is a constant problem, but the discussion is often limited to female victims.  Many men also deal with violence and abuse, but perhaps lack access to the same resources.  Does our approach to this issue need to change?  Are solutions to family violence gender-specific?

We talk to Dustin Tkachuk, from Legal Aid Alberta and Earl Silverman, from the Family of Men Support Society.

there is a video on this page that I cannot copy and paste but check it out here

Family Violence Affects Men Too


this is a silent crime because men don't usually like to talk about it, but its a huge issue not only affecting men but children and families 

Information about both these organizations can be found here:

Saturday, February 9, 2013

What Parents Need to Know to Protect Their Children in Divorce and Get Custody


Parental alienation syndrome evidence kitWhat Parents Need to Know to Protect Their Children in Divorce and Get Custody

How to Save Our Children When
We Can't Save Our Marriage

Twenty Years of Research on Custody is Very Clear, But the Divorce Industry Continues to Do the Opposite!

There is only one proven way to get fair custody:

Submit solid evidence to the judge that they can NOT ignore.
Judges can legally ignore anything you say (testimony) but MUST legally act on physical evidence submitted.

You may also be able to avoid an expensive trial using this information to educate your spouse

 For Years We Had Theories. Now We Have Real Answers!


This DVD summarizes the conclusions from over 200 scientific research studies conducted over 25+ years. It is the result of the largest compilation of research ever done on this topic. Many thousands of children were followed for 5, 10 and even 15 years after divorce to gather data.  It took Dr. Warren Farrell over thirteen years just to compile this research from many researchers for his book.
This DVD provides the answers based on tens of thousands of real-life experiences and hard scientific evidence collected over more than 20 years. This is not about theories and highly charged emotions typical in divorce courts - it is hard science. 

Learn why judges award sole-custody to ONE parent about 92% of the time and
how to avoid this damaging scenario for your children.
Every Judge, Lawyer and Parent Needs to View This Video!


Everything You Need to Understand the Ideal Custody Arrangement for Your Children - and Prove it to the Court too - is Contained in Our Evidence Kit.

Dr. Warren Farrell - Custody and divorce expert witness in what is best for children of divorce and joint parentingDear Parent,

Most judges and helping professionals know children of divorce do better when raised by both parents. However, when a mom feels “it would be best for my children to live with me,” even professionals assume she knows best, and miss cues that reveal her resistance to genuine shared parenting (such as saying “my children”).  
Why is mom’s resistance to genuine shared parenting so easily missed? Because the understanding of the value of dad runs so shallow and because this massive system does what is easiest and most profitable for it.   My 13 years of research which generated the book Father and Child Reunion, changes that. It creates such depth of understanding about the value of dad that it shocks even dads. For example, did you know that children raised primarily by dads do better than children raised primarily by moms? Neither does your attorney. Or your judge.  
More importantly, this research will help you understand why dads are so crucial. For example, the more exposure to dad, the more empathetic your children are likely to be. Do you know why?   Informed passion can inspire the right attorney and judge too. Dr. Farrell's research is likely to move the judge to prioritize shared parenting.   However, an attorney appreciates this information in the form it will be given in court too.
After thirteen years of research Dr. Farrell produced a DVD, called In the Best Interests of the Child, that leads the attorney to the key questions to educate a judge as to why anything less than a dad’s equal involvement is putting the child at risk. At risk of everything from ADD to drugs, delinquency, depression, low self-esteem, teenage pregnancy, self-centeredness, poor social development, and underachievement in every academic area.  
The practical result? Although this video is new judges in several states, who have not previously been inclined to equal father involvement, have already become committed to it.  
Best Regards,
Dr. Warren Farrell, Author Father and Child Reunion
Parental alienation syndrome evidence kit
The Best Interests of the Child Two DVD Set
How to Save Our Children When We Can't Save our Marriage
An In-Depth Dialogue with
Dr. Warren Farrell , Author, 
Father and Child Reunion
, The largest meta study ever done on what is best for children of divorce.
Dr. Farrell may be the top expert on the state-of-the-art on what the true "best interest of the child" is today.
Testimonial
"Dr. Warren Farrell isthe greatest expert on the importance of fathers. His DVD, The Best Interests of the Child, is incredible. Just incredible. It is chock-filled with insights and information. It is priceless."
--  Steve Ashley, Director of Divorced Fathers Network and Radio Show, Santa Cruz, CA.
WHAT YOU WILL GET: Imagine hiring one of the world's top minds to spend years to discover the best research, analyze it, and in two hours, answer all these questions and more for you:
  • What three conditions must prevail if your child is to have the best chance of doing well psychologically, socially, academically and physically?
  • Is an excellent stepparent as good-or better than-- a so-so biological parent?
  • If one parent has a job opportunity that will allow for the child to be in a nicer home and better school district, but it is across the country from the other parent, will moving be helpful to the child?
  • If your child can be in a "new intact family" that's peaceful and loving, but at a distance from a biological parent, is that better than being shuttled back-and-forth from mom to dad?
  • Are there certain advantages to your child being brought up primarily by mom, or primarily by dad? Does it make a difference if that child is a boy or a girl?
  • In high-conflict situations can shared parenting work for the child? If not, should the child be with the parent with whom the child has been living, or are there more important considerations?
  • How far apart is optimum for parents to live?
  • At what age should a child's parental preference be important? Which explanations for preference are actually signs the child should have more time with the other parent?
  • How important is overnight time with the child?
Submit this as evidence at your trial using our complete evidence kit.   This science practically requires judge's who are working under the "best interest of the child" doctrine to award equal/joint custody and shared parenting when there are two good parents. Anything else would be improper unless there is an unfit parent. Dr. Farrell is also available as an expert witness.
  • Debunk that sole custody or "mother custody" is best for children - IT'S NOT!
  • Results are from over 200 carefully evaluated scientific studies
  • Put your judge on the spot for any biased and sexist custody orders driven by tradition, not science and evidence
  • Judges MUST legally rule on the facts, evidence and the law, not any personal bias - But you must put the facts into evidence. Your lawyer may not.

Dr. Warren Farrell is a best selling author of seven books and one of the world's top experts on what is REALLY best for children of divorce. He spent 13 years gathering, reviewing and compiling over 200 scientific research studies on children of divorce.
Dr. Farrell is the author of seven books including "Father and Child Reunion" and "Why Men Are The Way They Are". He has appeared on over 1,000 TV and radio shows, and been interviewed frequently by Oprah Winfrey, Barbara Walters, Larry King and Peter Jennings. He has been featured repeatedly on 20/20 and in The New York Times, in People and, in men's journals, The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show, the Tomorrow Show, and many others.  
Dr. Farrell is the author of Father and Child Reunion, based on more than a decade of analyzing the most significant studies on what is best for children of divorce. He has trained psychologists for more than thirty years. His books on men and women (e.g., Why Men Are The Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say) and on family finances (Why Men Earn More) are published in more than 50 countries and 13 languages. He has taught in five disciplines (most recently the School of Medicine at the University of California in San Diego) and been chosen by the Financial Times as one of the world's top 100 Thought Leaders. Dr. Farrell lives with his wife and teenage daughters in Carlsbad, California.

The video explains what is now 100% clear scientific fact and by far the best for children - not by 10% or 50%, but by ALL measures a factor of 6 to 20 times better. Educate your judge and win your case on what is best for your child(ren) too! 
Judges and the divorce system are living in the dark ages and ruling based on tradition, myths, money and outdated sexist traditions, not reality, facts or science. If you want your children to do well in life you need to see this video and use it as evidence.  If you want your children to grow up with a balanced perspective and not repeat the divorce cycle themselves - you need to see and use this video. Just as one example: Children who grow up in sole custody homes without a father have a 93% divorce rate! Don't let your children's lives be ruined by the divorce system. Know the facts so you can help them be successful in life.
Force your judge to watch this at trial by submitting it as evidence and you will not only help yourself but
you will benefit many other parents and children coming behind you.

 

This Valuable Information to Save Your Children From the Ravages of Divorce and the For-Profit Divorce Industry is available in Three Packages. Just select one by clicking below:
  1. Three DVD sets (6 DVD's total) for submission to court, opposition and for your copy (Legally you need 3 copies to submit as evidence).Custody Evidence Kit
  2. One Audio CD Set (we recommend you educate yourself, your spouse and/or your attorney by offering this easy to listen to CD while driving).
  3. One copy of the hardcover book "Father and Child Reunion" with all the footnotes and research references.
  4. A collection of appropriate case law governing parental rights with over 250 case citations in a MS-Word file to use in your case and include in your court submissions and conclusions of law.
  5. A list of research showing the custody arrangement that is superior for children and making your parenting plan/proposal consistent with this research.
  6. Updates by email as we add more information to this package over time.
    Please provide your email address to receive this.

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More Background on Dr. Farrell
Dr. Farrell is the author of Father and Child Reunion. The goal of Father and Child Reunion was to determine what is best for children of divorce. Dr. Farrell's findings are based on an analysis of the most significant studies world-wide. The result, Father and Child Reunion, is the most extensive recent analysis in book form of what is really in the best interests of children.
Although Dr. Farrell has trained psychologists for thirty years, he looks at the family from every perspective. For example, he has been selected by The Financial Times as one of the top 100 Thought Leaders in the world, and has also taught in five disciplines (most recently, the School of Medicine at the University of California in San Diego). Warren Farrell's most recent book--Why Men Earn More-- is on family finances and economics. Why Men Earn More was chosen by U.S. News and World Report as one of the top four career books to be read in 2006.  
Dr. Farrell can communicate complex ideas simply, which is why he has appeared repeatedly on Oprah and on 1,000 other TV and radio shows worldwide, and doubtless why two of his books-- Why Men Are The Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power -- became international best sellers. Finally, his Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say teaches everyone in the family how to communicate.  
No matter what your perspective or background, you will be fascinated with how Dr. Farrell brings child development, parenting and communications together in a way that is both so new and so sensible. Maybe that's because his research is also grounded in his real-life experience with his wife and two teenage daughters. It is only when all this is considered that we know what is best for our children. 
 

This site and video do not provide legal advice but Dr. Farrell is available as an expert witness.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Wives Want Out

Wives Want Out

While statistics are highly manoeuvrable, the consensus among government agencies that track the data is that in Great Britain the divorce rate for first marriages is 40%, while second marriages and third marriages have a 60% and 75% rate of failure.

The United States divorce rates are similar although 50% of first marriages are likely to fail, while 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. Canadian statistics fall somewhere between the United Kingdom and the United States.

So, why are the unhappy British wives staying in their marriages? The survey showed the following:

12% stayed to have an “easy life”
30% stayed to avoid a major upheaval in their lives
37% stayed for the children
42% stayed so they would not lose their homes
33% stayed because they feared if they left they would get nothing
25% stayed because of the cost of legal fees in a divorce

Additional data indicated that 30% of men stay in a “loveless” marriage because they fear losing contact with their children. Were the survey participants open to marriage counselling? Yes, 50% would welcome marital therapy while 20% said they wouldn’t bother.

Surprisingly, 60% of the participants were unaware of mediation as an alternative to a court battle to resolve issues arising from marriage breakdown.

I often remind clients who are weighing the pros and cons of divorce to consider that marriage requires hard work and it doesn’t get any easier the second time around. Like author and marriage therapist Lori Gordon PhD says “Love is a feeling, marriage is a contract and relationships are work.”

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Lawyer Liable for $950,000 Judgment in Parental Abduction Case

Lawyer Liable for $950,000 Judgment in Parental Abduction Case

Posted February 16, 2012 by LawDiva in Divorce, Family Law. Tagged: Madeline Marzano-Lesnevich, Marie Carrascosa, parental abduction, Peter Innes, Spain, Victoria Innes. 4 Comments


A lawyer who mistakenly released a child’s passport to the child’s mother, contrary to a court order, has been ordered to pay $950,000 to the father of a child abducted by her client from New Jersy to Spain.

The parents of Victoria Innes, Peter Innes and Marie Carrascosa, were married in Spain in 1999 but resided in the United States. Their daughter, Victoria, was born in 2000. Their marriage ended in 2004. Victoria had both US and Spanish citizenship.

After an acrimonious dispute Victoria’s parents signed an agreement in 2004 that prohibited both parties from international travel with Victoria without the consent of the other parent. The agreement also provided that Victoria’s passport would be held in trust by Ms. Carrascosa’s lawyer.

When Ms. Carrascosa changed lawyers her file was delivered to the new lawyer, however, her new lawyer, Madeline Marzano-Lesnevich, was not aware that Victoria’s passport was to held by her and not released to her client without Mr. Innes’ consent or a court order.

Ms. Carrascosa, a lawyer in Spain, took advantage of the situation, obtained the passport from her lawyer and promptly fled to Spain where she and her daughter stayed with Victoria’s maternal grandmother. Later Ms. Carrascosa returned to New Jersey but refused to return Victoria, alleging the Spanish court had jurisdiction and would not let Victoria leave the country until she was 18-years-old.

In the meantime, Victoria’s father had obtained an American order for custody of Victoria and attempted to enforce it, to no avail. Ms. Carrascosa was charged with contempt of court and interfering with custody and was sentenced to fourteen years in prison, where she has been languishing since 2006, determined not to comply with American justice.

Despite all efforts and the involvement of Spanish/ American judicial mediators at the Hague Court in Holland, Victoria remains in Spain.

Parental abduction is the worst form of child abuse. While the Hackensack court undoubtedly meted out strict punishment, so far it has not motivated Victoria’s mother to relinquish her hold on Victoria.

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Corrupted Family Servises

Child Protection Services are too corrupt to overhaul and beyond reform..


by Cess Ssec on Tuesday, April 12, 2011 at 7:28pm
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Why the government won’t tell you the truth.



April 12, 2011



Child Protection Services along with all other Social Service reform is not possible...

We have no choice, but to shut the entire system down.



There is an undisclosed consensus among the federal, state, and provincial governments of both Canada and the USA that agree that, every social service sector particularly, the “Mental Health Services” and the “Child Protection Services” have been taken over by organized crime.



The knowledge that these “antiquated and defective” organizations cannot serve the public good other than create a profit for their benefactors, are kept secret by those within the government that are aware of the truth.



An ominous fear of massive litigation's, a complete breakdown of the order of public social services and a threat to throw the social service system into chaos is the real reason why our government will not release this information to you.



What this means is that children will continue to be stolen from their families by social services. Then, farmed out for profit to foster homes where they could be raped, starved, deprived, sold as sex toys to the elite, prostituted, sold to pharma-companies for experiments or brought into the system through fraud for adoption.



As long as our government refuses to admit what they know to be factual, our children will remain vulnerable to the child predators that populate Child Protection Services.



In the meantime, family organizations, similar groups, child advocates and parents of means must implement plans to unite as grassroots organizations in order to protect our children and combat this corruption.



Malicious social workers having found to have taken advantage of a “purposely designed weak system” to commit crimes against children for profit, must be brought to justice and prosecuted accordingly.





Nicolas Stathopoulos

Social service crimes researcher

[SSEC] Social Service Economic Crimes (research)

Copyright © 2011 All rights reserved.

Monday, April 11, 2011

School 1957 and 2009

Subject: HIGH SCHOOL -- 1957 vs. 2009

Sometimes we don't see the ridiculousness of policies until we're confronted with them. These showcase it well, you make the call.












HIGH SCHOOL -- 1957 vs. 2009

Scenario 1:

Jack goes quail hunting before school and then pulls into the school parking lot with his shotgun in his truck's gun rack.

1957 - Vice Principal comes over, looks at Jack's shotgun, goes to his car and gets his shotgun to show Jack.


2009 - School goes into lockdown, FBI called, Jack hauled off to jail and never sees his truck or gun again. Counselors called in for traumatized students and teachers.




Scenario 2:

Johnny and Mark get into a fist fight after school.

1957 - Crowd gathers. Mark wins.. Johnny and Mark shake hands and end up buddies.


2009 - Police called and SWAT team arrives -- they arrest both Johnny and Mark. They are both charged with assault and both expelled even though Johnny started it.






Scenario 3:

Jeffrey will not sit still in class, he disrupts other students.

1957 - Jeffrey sent to the Principal's office and given a good paddling by the Principal. He then returns to class, sits still and does not disrupt class again.

2009 - Jeffrey is given huge doses of Ritalin. He becomes a zombie. He is then tested for ADD. The school gets extra money from the state because Jeffrey has a disability.






Scenario 4:

Billy breaks a window in his neighbor's car and his Dad gives him a whipping with his belt..


1957 - Billy is more careful next time, grows up normal, goes to college and becomes a successful businessman.

2009 - Billy's dad is arrested for child abuse. Billy is removed to foster care and joins a gang. The state psychologist is told by Billy's sister that she remembers being abused herself and their dad goes to prison. Billy's mom has an affair with the psychologist.






Scenario 5:


Mark gets a headache and takes some aspirin to school.

1957 - Mark shares his aspirin with the Principal out on the smoking dock.


2009 - The police are called and Mark is expelled from school for drug violations. His car is then searched for drugs and weapons.






Scenario 6:

Pedro fails high school English.


1957 - Pedro goes to summer school, passes English and goes to college.



2009 - Pedro's cause is taken up by state. Newspaper articles appear nationally explaining that teaching English as a requirement for graduation is racist. ACLU files class action lawsuit against the state school system and Pedro's English teacher. English is then banned from core curriculum. Pedro is given his diploma anyway but ends up mowing lawns for a living because he cannot speak English.






Scenario 7:

Johnny takes apart leftover firecrackers from the Fourth of July, puts them in a model airplane paint bottle and blows up a red ant bed.

1957 - Ants die.


2009 - ATF, Homeland Security and the FBI are all called. Johnny is charged with domestic terrorism. The FBI investigates his parents -- and all siblings are removed from their home and all computers are confiscated.
Johnny's dad is placed on a terror watch list and is never allowed to fly again.






Scenario 8:

Wally falls while running during recess and scrapes his knee. He is found crying by his teacher, Nancy. Nancy hugs him to comfort him.


1957 - In a short time, Wally feels better and goes on playing.


2009 - Nancy is accused of being a sexual predator and loses her job. She faces 3 years in State Prison... Wally undergoes 5 years of therapy.




This should hit every email inbox to show how stupid we have become!!

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Running for childrens rights in Canada

I cam across an article in my local paper about boxer who is running across Canada to raise awareness about some of the mistakes that the Canadian Family legal systen is failing our children. Kere is the link, it is pretty good and I think he is right and we need to help him... http://www.crosscanadarun4thechildren.com/. Read it and do what you can....